2 out of 3 people still have an object that an ex gave them
LEHI, Utah (StudyFinds.org) — Ex-boyfriends and girlfriends can be a touchy subject for many, but that doesn’t stop most Americans from clinging to gifts from their former flame. A new survey reveals that two out of three people still have an element of a previous relationship, even if they are married now!
The 1,000-person poll, commissioned by Neighbor.com and conducted by Pollfish, found that 65% of Americans still have something that belonged to their ex or a gift their ex gave them. The most common keepsakes people say they keep are love letters (50%), photos (46%) and jewelry (43%). More than four in 10 people admit they have more than one element of a past relationship.
In contrast, Americans are less likely to cling to their ex’s exercise equipment (16%) and their furniture (20%). Unfortunately, only 18% say they keep a pet from a previous relationship.
So why don’t people move on and start over after a breakup? The survey reveals that 44% keep these objects because of the fond memories attached to them, while 30% believe that the object defines a specific chapter in their life. Another 38% have a much more practical explanation for keeping their ex’s stuff – is it still functional or does it serve a purpose! Would you throw away a TV because an ex gave it to you?
One in four Americans say they’re hiding something from their ex because they still miss them.
Do you still have the WHAT of your ex? !
While love letters and old photos can be sweet memories, some Americans admit they still have strange reminders of their former love. This list includes sex toys, shot glasses, tattoos (it’s kinda hard to get rid of) and even their ex’s hair or fingernails!
It could trigger some awkward conversations, as more than six in 10 respondents say they are now in a new relationship – with one in three being married. For people in a new relationship, 66% say their current partner knows they still have items from their ex. While nearly two in three say they don’t hide the fact that they’re keeping their ex’s gifts, 37% admit they intentionally try to hide their ex’s old stuff from their new love.
Overall, almost half of respondents keep these items for more than five years after the relationship ends, although 78% say they will throw these items away “one day”.
Who says men aren’t sentimental?
It turns out that men are much more likely to remember their ex. Two in three men (68%) say they still have items from their ex, compared to 62% of women. Overall, more men are keeping all types of gifts and old possessions from ex-girlfriends, with 54% keeping love letters, 48% keeping clothes, and 23% keeping gear. ‘exercise.
Interestingly, however, women are more likely to retain a relationship memory longer than men – 50% retaining this item for five years. Only 32% of men keep an item that long.
Americans also admit that there are a lot of conflicting emotions that come with keeping a relationship relic of their ex. While 35% of men and 15% of women say an old article makes them miss their ex, 50% of men and 27% of women actually say that article brings up painful memories of their old relationship.
With that in mind, 23% of men and 10% of women plan to return these items to their old flame someday. By then, men are twice as likely to hide these memories from their current lover (47% vs. 27%).